Monday, April 2, 2012

對外語學習的主要誤區


最近看到一篇文章,認為以下幾個觀點均是人們的誤解: 
 
  1.要有語言環境, 多跟外國人交流,最好是能出國,不久自然就能會說了。
  2.學習外語要多記多背,也就是說是用記憶學語言。
  3.想糾正發音,一定要專聽和模仿純正的發音,比如BBCVOA那種。
  4.要學習外語語法,如果語法熟練,說句子就正確了。
  5.要有詞一定詞彙量,要大量背單詞。但背英語單詞很難。
  6.以前學的是書面語或過時的英語,和現在口語是不一樣的,所以我口語不好。
  7學外語必須非常刻苦,長時間反復練習。

該作者認為:以上這些結論不但是錯誤的,而且基本上與事實是正好相反的。” 

想要詳細瞭解,可以閱讀原文: 

How to Become an Early Riser

May 23rd, 2005 by Steve Pavlina

It is well to be up before daybreak, for such habits contribute to health, wealth, and wisdom.
- Aristotle

Are morning people born or made? In my case it was definitely made. In my early 20s, I rarely went to bed before midnight, and I’d almost always sleep in late. I usually didn’t start hitting my stride each day until late afternoon.

But after a while I couldn’t ignore the high correlation between success and rising early, even in my own life. On those rare occasions where I did get up early, I noticed that my productivity was almost always higher, not just in the morning but all throughout the day. And I also noticed a significant feeling of well-being. So being the proactive goal-achiever I was, I set out to become a habitual early riser. I promptly set my alarm clock for 5AM…

… and the next morning, I got up just before noon.

Hmmm…

I tried again many more times, each time not getting very far with it. I figured I must have been born without the early riser gene. Whenever my alarm went off, my first thought was always to stop that blasted noise and go back to sleep. I tabled this habit for a number of years, but eventually I came across some sleep research that showed me that I was going about this problem the wrong way. Once I applied those ideas, I was able to become an early riser consistently.

It’s hard to become an early riser using the wrong strategy. But with the right strategy, it’s relatively easy.

The most common wrong strategy is this: You assume that if you’re going to get up earlier, you’d better go to bed earlier. So you figure out how much sleep you’re getting now, and then just shift everything back a few hours. If you now sleep from midnight to 8am, you figure you’ll go to bed at 10pm and get up at 6am instead. Sounds very reasonable, but it will usually fail.

It seems there are two main schools of thought about sleep patterns. One is that you should go to bed and get up at the same times every day. It’s like having an alarm clock on both ends — you try to sleep the same hours each night. This seems practical for living in modern society. We need predictability in our schedules. And we need to ensure adequate rest.

The second school says you should listen to your body’s needs and go to bed when you’re tired and get up when you naturally wake up. This approach is rooted in biology. Our bodies should know how much rest we need, so we should listen to them.

Through trial and error, I found out for myself that both of these schools are suboptimal sleep patterns. Both of them are wrong if you care about productivity. Here’s why:

If you sleep set hours, you’ll sometimes go to bed when you aren’t sleepy enough. If it’s taking you more than five minutes to fall asleep each night, you aren’t sleepy enough. You’re wasting time lying in bed awake and not being asleep. Another problem is that you’re assuming you need the same number of hours of sleep every night, which is a false assumption. Your sleep needs vary from day to day.

If you sleep based on what your body tells you, you’ll probably be sleeping more than you need — in many cases a lot more, like 10-15 hours more per week (the equivalent of a full waking day). A lot of people who sleep this way get 8+ hours of sleep per night, which is usually too much. Also, your mornings may be less predictable if you’re getting up at different times. And because our natural rhythms are sometimes out of tune with the 24-hour clock, you may find that your sleep times begin to drift.

The optimal solution for me has been to combine both approaches. It’s very simple, and many early risers do this without even thinking about it, but it was a mental breakthrough for me nonetheless. The solution was to go to bed when I’m sleepy (and only when I’m sleepy) and get up with an alarm clock at a fixed time (7 days per week). So I always get up at the same time (in my case 5am), but I go to bed at different times every night.

I go to bed when I’m too sleepy to stay up. My sleepiness test is that if I couldn’t read a book for more than a page or two without drifting off, I’m ready for bed. Most of the time when I go to bed, I’m asleep within three minutes. I lie down, get comfortable, and immediately I’m drifting off. Sometimes I go to bed at 9:30pm; other times I stay up until midnight. Most of the time I go to bed between 10-11pm. If I’m not sleepy, I stay up until I can’t keep my eyes open any longer. Reading is an excellent activity to do during this time, since it becomes obvious when I’m too sleepy to read.

When my alarm goes off every morning, I turn it off, stretch for a couple seconds, and sit up. I don’t think about it. I’ve learned that the longer it takes me to get up, the more likely I am to try to sleep in. So I don’t allow myself to have conversations in my head about the benefits of sleeping in once the alarm goes off. Even if I want to sleep in, I always get up right away.
After a few days of using this approach, I found that my sleep patterns settled into a natural rhythm. If I got too little sleep one night, I’d automatically be sleepier earlier and get more sleep the next night. And if I had lots of energy and wasn’t tired, I’d sleep less. My body learned when to knock me out because it knew I would always get up at the same time and that my wake-up time wasn’t negotiable.

A side effect was that on average, I slept about 90 minutes less per night, but I actually felt more well-rested. I was sleeping almost the entire time I was in bed.

I read that most insomniacs are people who go to bed when they aren’t sleepy. If you aren’t sleepy and find yourself unable to fall asleep quickly, get up and stay awake for a while. Resist sleep until your body begins to release the hormones that rob you of consciousness. If you simply go to bed when you’re sleepy and then get up at a fixed time, you’ll cure your insomnia. The first night you’ll stay up late, but you’ll fall asleep right away. You may be tired that first day from getting up too early and getting only a few hours of sleep the whole night, but you’ll slog through the day and will want to go to bed earlier that second night. After a few days, you’ll settle into a pattern of going to bed at roughly the same time and falling asleep right away.

So if you want to become an early riser (or just exert more control over your sleep patterns), then try this: Go to bed only when you’re too sleepy to stay up, and get up at a fixed time every morning.

10 Reasons You Should Never Get a Job

July 21st, 2006 by Steve Pavlina



It’s funny that when people reach a certain age, such as after graduating college, they assume it’s time to go out and get a job.  But like many things the masses do, just because everyone does it doesn’t mean it’s a good idea.  In fact, if you’re reasonably intelligent, getting a job is one of the worst things you can do to support yourself.  There are far better ways to make a living than selling yourself into indentured servitude.

Here are some reasons you should do everything in your power to avoid getting a job:

1. Income for dummies.

Getting a job and trading your time for money may seem like a good idea.  There’s only one problem with it.  It’s stupid!  It’s the stupidest way you can possibly generate income!  This is truly income for dummies.

Why is getting a job so dumb?  Because you only get paid when you’re working.  Don’t you see a problem with that, or have you been so thoroughly brainwashed into thinking it’s reasonable and intelligent to only earn income when you’re working?  Have you never considered that it might be better to be paid even when you’re not working?  Who taught you that you could only earn income while working?  Some other brainwashed employee perhaps?

Don’t you think your life would be much easier if you got paid while you were eating, sleeping, and playing with the kids too?  Why not get paid 24/7?  Get paid whether you work or not.  Don’t your plants grow even when you aren’t tending to them?  Why not your bank account?

Who cares how many hours you work?  Only a handful of people on this entire planet care how much time you spend at the office.  Most of us won’t even notice whether you work 6 hours a week or 60.  But if you have something of value to provide that matters to us, a number of us will be happy to pull out our wallets and pay you for it.  We don’t care about your time — we only care enough to pay for the value we receive.  Do you really care how long it took me to write this article?  Would you pay me twice as much if it took me 6 hours vs. only 3?

Non-dummies often start out on the traditional income for dummies path.  So don’t feel bad if you’re just now realizing you’ve been suckered.  Non-dummies eventually realize that trading time for money is indeed extremely dumb and that there must be a better way.  And of course there is a better way.  The key is to de-couple your value from your time.

Smart people build systems that generate income 24/7, especially passive income.  This can include starting a business, building a web site, becoming an investor, or generating royalty income from creative work.  The system delivers the ongoing value to people and generates income from it, and once it’s in motion, it runs continuously whether you tend to it or not.  From that moment on, the bulk of your time can be invested in increasing your income (by refining your system or spawning new ones) instead of merely maintaining your income.

This web site is an example of such a system.  At the time of this writing, it generates about $9000 a month in income for me (update: $40,000 a month as of 10/31/06), and it isn’t my only income stream either.  I write each article just once (fixed time investment), and people can extract value from them year after year.  The web server delivers the value, and other systems (most of which I didn’t even build and don’t even understand) collect income and deposit it automatically into my bank account.  It’s not perfectly passive, but I love writing and would do it for free anyway.  But of course it cost me a lot of money to launch this business, right?  Um, yeah, $9 is an awful lot these days (to register the domain name).  Everything after that was profit.

Sure it takes some upfront time and effort to design and implement your own income-generating systems.  But you don’t have to reinvent the wheel — feel free to use existing systems like ad networks and affiliate programs.  Once you get going, you won’t have to work so many hours to support yourself.  Wouldn’t it be nice to be out having dinner with your spouse, knowing that while you’re eating, you’re earning money?  If you want to keep working long hours because you enjoy it, go right ahead.  If you want to sit around doing nothing, feel free.  As long as your system continues delivering value to others, you’ll keep getting paid whether you’re working or not.

Your local bookstore is filled with books containing workable systems others have already designed, tested, and debugged.  Nobody is born knowing how to start a business or generate investment income, but you can easily learn it.  How long it takes you to figure it out is irrelevant because the time is going to pass anyway.  You might as well emerge at some future point as the owner of income-generating systems as opposed to a lifelong wage slave.  This isn’t all or nothing.  If your system only generates a few hundred dollars a month, that’s a significant step in the right direction.

2. Limited experience.

You might think it’s important to get a job to gain experience.  But that’s like saying you should play golf to get experience playing golf.  You gain experience from living, regardless of whether you have a job or not.  A job only gives you experience at that job, but you gain ”experience” doing just about anything, so that’s no real benefit at all.  Sit around doing nothing for a couple years, and you can call yourself an experienced meditator, philosopher, or politician.

The problem with getting experience from a job is that you usually just repeat the same limited experience over and over.  You learn a lot in the beginning and then stagnate.  This forces you to miss other experiences that would be much more valuable.  And if your limited skill set ever becomes obsolete, then your experience won’t be worth squat.  In fact, ask yourself what the experience you’re gaining right now will be worth in 20-30 years.  Will your job even exist then?

Consider this.  Which experience would you rather gain?  The knowledge of how to do a specific job really well — one that you can only monetize by trading your time for money – or the knowledge of how to enjoy financial abundance for the rest of your life without ever needing a job again?  Now I don’t know about you, but I’d rather have the latter experience.  That seems a lot more useful in the real world, wouldn’t you say?

3. Lifelong domestication.

Getting a job is like enrolling in a human domestication program.  You learn how to be a good pet.

Look around you.  Really look.  What do you see?  Are these the surroundings of a free human being?  Or are you living in a cage for unconscious animals?  Have you fallen in love with the color beige?

How’s your obedience training coming along?  Does your master reward your good behavior?  Do you get disciplined if you fail to obey your master’s commands?

Is there any spark of free will left inside you?  Or has your conditioning made you a pet for life?

Humans are not meant to be raised in cages.  You poor thing…

4. Too many mouths to feed.

Employee income is the most heavily taxed there is.  In the USA you can expect that about half your salary will go to taxes.  The tax system is designed to disguise how much you’re really giving up because some of those taxes are paid by your employer, and some are deducted from your paycheck.  But you can bet that from your employer’s perspective, all of those taxes are considered part of your pay, as well as any other compensation you receive such as benefits.  Even the rent for the office space you consume is considered, so you must generate that much more value to cover it.  You might feel supported by your corporate environment, but keep in mind that you’re the one paying for it.

Another chunk of your income goes to owners and investors.  That’s a lot of mouths to feed.

It isn’t hard to understand why employees pay the most in taxes relative to their income.  After all, who has more control over the tax system?  Business owners and investors or employees?

You only get paid a fraction of the real value you generate.  Your real salary may be more than triple what you’re paid, but most of that money you’ll never see.  It goes straight into other people’s pockets.

What a generous person you are!

5. Way too risky.

Many employees believe getting a job is the safest and most secure way to support themselves.

Morons.

Social conditioning is amazing.  It’s so good it can even make people believe the exact opposite of the truth.

Does putting yourself in a position where someone else can turn off all your income just by saying two words (“You’re fired”) sound like a safe and secure situation to you?  Does having only one income stream honestly sound more secure than having 10?

The idea that a job is the most secure way to generate income is just silly.  You can’t have security if you don’t have control, and employees have the least control of anyone.  If you’re an employee, then your real job title should be professional gambler.

6. Having an evil bovine master.

When you run into an idiot in the entrepreneurial world, you can turn around and head the other way.  When you run into an idiot in the corporate world, you have to turn around and say, “Sorry, boss.”

Did you know that the word boss comes from the Dutch word baas, which historically means master?  Another meaning of the word boss is “a cow or bovine.”  And in many video games, the boss is the evil dude that you have to kill at the end of a level.

So if your boss is really your evil bovine master, then what does that make you?  Nothing but a turd in the herd.

Who’s your daddy?

7. Begging for money.

When you want to increase your income, do you have to sit up and beg your master for more money?  Does it feel good to be thrown some extra Scooby Snacks now and then?

Or are you free to decide how much you get paid without needing anyone’s permission but your own?

If you have a business and one customer says “no” to you, you simply say “next.”

8. An inbred social life.

Many people treat their jobs as their primary social outlet.  They hang out with the same people working in the same field.  Such incestuous relations are social dead ends.  An exciting day includes deep conversations about the company’s switch from Sparkletts to Arrowhead, the delay of Microsoft’s latest operating system, and the unexpected delivery of more Bic pens.  Consider what it would be like to go outside and talk to strangers.  Ooooh… scary!  Better stay inside where it’s safe.

If one of your co-slaves gets sold to another master, do you lose a friend?  If you work in a male-dominated field, does that mean you never get to talk to women above the rank of receptionist?  Why not decide for yourself whom to socialize with instead of letting your master decide for you?  Believe it or not, there are locations on this planet where free people congregate.  Just be wary of those jobless folk — they’re a crazy bunch!

9. Loss of freedom.

It takes a lot of effort to tame a human being into an employee.  The first thing you have to do is break the human’s independent will.  A good way to do this is to give them a weighty policy manual filled with nonsensical rules and regulations.  This leads the new employee to become more obedient, fearing that s/he could be disciplined at any minute for something incomprehensible.  Thus, the employee will likely conclude it’s safest to simply obey the master’s commands without question.  Stir in some office politics for good measure, and we’ve got a freshly minted mind slave.

As part of their obedience training, employees must be taught how to dress, talk, move, and so on.  We can’t very well have employees thinking for themselves, now can we?  That would ruin everything.

God forbid you should put a plant on your desk when it’s against the company policy.  Oh no, it’s the end of the world!  Cindy has a plant on her desk!  Summon the enforcers!  Send Cindy back for another round of sterility training!

Free human beings think such rules and regulations are silly of course.  The only policy they need is:  “Be smart.  Be nice.  Do what you love.  Have fun.”

10. Becoming a coward.

Have you noticed that employed people have an almost endless capacity to whine about problems at their companies?  But they don’t really want solutions – they just want to vent and make excuses why it’s all someone else’s fault.  It’s as if getting a job somehow drains all the free will out of people and turns them into spineless cowards.  If you can’t call your boss a jerk now and then without fear of getting fired, you’re no longer free.  You’ve become your master’s property.

When you work around cowards all day long, don’t you think it’s going to rub off on you?  Of course it will.  It’s only a matter of time before you sacrifice the noblest parts of your humanity on the altar of fear:  first courage… then honesty… then honor and integrity… and finally your independent will.  You sold your humanity for nothing but an illusion.  And now your greatest fear is discovering the truth of what you’ve become.

I don’t care how badly you’ve been beaten down.  It is never too late to regain your courage.  Never!
Still want a job?

If you’re currently a well-conditioned, well-behaved employee, your most likely reaction to the above will be defensiveness.  It’s all part of the conditioning.  But consider that if the above didn’t have a grain of truth to it, you wouldn’t have an emotional reaction at all.  This is only a reminder of what you already know.  You can deny your cage all you want, but the cage is still there.  Perhaps this all happened so gradually that you never noticed it until now… like a lobster enjoying a nice warm bath.

If any of this makes you mad, that’s a step in the right direction.  Anger is a higher level of consciousness than apathy, so it’s a lot better than being numb all the time.  Any emotion — even confusion — is better than apathy.  If you work through your feelings instead of repressing them, you’ll soon emerge on the doorstep of courage.  And when that happens, you’ll have the will to actually do something about your situation and start living like the powerful human being you were meant to be instead of the domesticated pet you’ve been trained to be.
Happily jobless

What’s the alternative to getting a job?  The alternative is to remain happily jobless for life and to generate income through other means.  Realize that you earn income by providing value — not time – so find a way to provide your best value to others, and charge a fair price for it.  One of the simplest and most accessible ways is to start your own business.  Whatever work you’d otherwise do via employment, find a way to provide that same value directly to those who will benefit most from it.  It takes a bit more time to get going, but your freedom is easily worth the initial investment of time and energy.  Then you can buy your own Scooby Snacks for a change.

And of course everything you learn along the way, you can share with others to generate even more value.  So even your mistakes can be monetized.

One of the greatest fears you’ll confront is that you may not have any real value to offer others.  Maybe being an employee and getting paid by the hour is the best you can do.  Maybe you just aren’t worth that much.  That line of thinking is all just part of your conditioning.  It’s absolute nonsense.  As you begin to dump such brainwashing, you’ll soon recognize that you have the ability to provide enormous value to others and that people will gladly pay you for it.  There’s only one thing that prevents you from seeing this truth — fear.

All you really need is the courage to be yourself.  Your real value is rooted in who you are, not what you do.  The only thing you need actually do is express your real self to the world.  You’ve been told all sort of lies as to why you can’t do that.  But you’ll never know true happiness and fulfillment until you summon the courage to do it anyway.

The next time someone says to you, “Get a job,” I suggest you reply as Curly did:  ”No, please… not that!  Anything but that!”  Then poke him right in the eyes.

You already know deep down that getting a job isn’t what you want.  So don’t let anyone try to tell you otherwise.  Learn to trust your inner wisdom, even if the whole world says you’re wrong and foolish for doing so.  Years from now you’ll look back and realize it was one of the best decisions you ever made.
Final thoughts

While I wouldn’t recommend starting an online business for everyone, for many people it’s one of the best ways to generate income without a job. It has certainly worked disgustingly well for me. If you’re interested in learning more about this option, please check out Build Your Own Successful Online Business for details.



Saturday, March 17, 2012

Do It Now 中文版(時間管理)【轉載】

作者:StevePavlina
原文地址:DoItNow
http://www.stevepavlina.com/articles/do-it-now.htm

很多年前讀大學的時候,我決定制定一個計畫挑戰自己:只用三個學期完成其他人通常花費四年的課程,能否畢業。這篇文章詳細的說明了我在成功實現該目標過程中的所有時間管理技巧。

為了實現這個目標,我決心每個學期得到30到40個學分,而其他學生平均只要12到15個學分。顯而易見,我必須合理安排時間才能實現目標。我開始閱讀我所能找到的所有關於時間管理的資料,並學以所用。正好三個學期,我完成了目標:兩個理科學士學位(電腦科學和數學),而且沒有參加暑期的補課。我每天晚上睡七到八個小時,處理好我的日常雜務(購物,做飯等等),參與社交活動,每天早晨鍛煉30分鐘。在最後一學期我完成了高級電腦和數學兩門總共37學分的課程,我甚至擁有一份遊戲程式師的全職工作(每週工作40小時),還是當地ACM學會(AssociationofComputingMachinery)的副主席。我的同學把他們完成功課要花的時間加到一起,結論是我的一周有250小時。我以3.9GPA的成績畢業並且獲得每年頒發給最優秀電腦專業學生的特別獎。我的一個教授後來告訴我當他們知道我所做所為之後,選擇獎項的候選人就變得很簡單了。

我並不被看作一個天才兒童,這也是我第一次做出這樣的事。沒人指導過我,我不知道是否有誰那麼做過,我也沒有想起什麼人鼓勵我這麼做。事實上,當我告訴大家的時候大多數人都出來勸阻我。我只是簡單的想為了我自己而做。如果你想更好的瞭解我那個時候為什麼會嘗試如此瘋狂的事兒,你也許會樂於讀一讀生活的意義:引子,裡面包含了整個故事的背景以及有關我的動機的細節描述。

我花了很多時間來說服電腦系主任給我選學額外的學分,我同學經常說我作弊,要麼就是有個雙胞胎兄弟,或者乾脆說我是精神不正常(每週我聽到最多的就是最後一條,也許說的有些道理)。大多數時候我保持沉默,但當被問到修多少學分的時候,我會如實回答。我也許是整個大學裡唯一拿著兩頁課表的學生,因此如果有人脅迫我,這很容易證明我說的是真話,雖然我很少這麼做。

講這個故事,並非為了引人注目,更不是使你好奇於我如何做到它。我成功實現目標只是我運用了時間管理這個概念,很多人可能根本不知道,但它卻早就存在於那個時候(1992-1993年)的書籍和音訊節目中。大學裡養成的時間管理習慣對我後來創業幫助很大,所以我想與你分享並希望你覺得同樣有價值。它讓我節約了學費並且給了我大約$30,000來起家做創業(全部是我最後一學期當遊戲程式師時賺的,大部分是版稅收入)。閒話少說,下面就是我知道的時間管理的精華所在:

目標明確是關鍵。

首先要明確的知道你想要什麼。在我曾經訓練過的一個跆拳道館,牆上有一塊巨大的標語,“你的目標是黑帶!”。它提醒每個學員為什麼他/她們要經過如此艱苦的訓練。你獨自工作的時候,很容易整日在辦公桌上碌碌無為完成一些毫無價值的工作。在你不知道自己打算做什麼的時候,這會經常發生。當你意識到這點,問自己“我到底在這裡試圖想實現什麼目標麼?”你必須儘量清楚自己的目標。使你的目標更明確,並把它們寫出來。你的目標必須清楚到這種程度:即使一個陌生人,在客觀地瞭解了你的情況後,都能就你是否完成每個目標給出一個絕對的“是”或者“否”的答覆。假如你不能明確的定義你的目標,就算到達了你又怎麼能知道?

我發現定義和展開一個明確目標的關鍵週期是九十天,就是一個季度。在那樣一段時間裡,如果你確立裡非常明確的目標,你就可以作出重大的可估量的改變。花點時間停下來,寫寫你希望接下來的九十天你的生活是什麼樣。什麼樣的月收入?體重多少?朋友如何?事業如何?人際關係如何?你的網站會是什麼樣子?詳細的寫。絕對明確的描述會給你全程計畫提供一個邊界。

就像飛機的自動駕駛儀必須不斷修正航線,你必須定時重新審視你的目標。每天早晨重讀你清楚寫下的目標,將這些清晰的、記錄下來的目標重新接合起來。把它們貼在牆上,特別是你的經濟目標。幾年前(九十年代中期),我在每個房間裡貼上”5000美元/月”的表語。那就是我當時的月收入目標。我不斷的確立明確的收入目標,即使有時候遭遇挫折,我發現這個過程十分有效。這並不只説明我關注我的目標——也許更有助於讓我忽視那些目標之外的事情。例如,如果你確定了月收入一萬美元的目標,這會讓你放棄做那些每月只能掙五千美元的事情。

如果你仍不明白如果明確目標,那就把它作為你的首要目標。一輩子不清楚自己到底想要什麼是對時間的巨大浪費。大多數人長久的沉迷於“我不知道做什麼”的狀態中。他們等著外力使自己目標明確,殊不知明確是自身創造的。一切在等著你動手,沒有別的辦法,它會一直等待直到你下定決心。等待明確的目標就像一位元雕塑家注視著一塊大理石,等待裡面的雕像可以拋開不需要的碎屑自動出現。不要指望目標會自動明確起來——拿起鑿子動手吧!

靈活安排

知道你的目標與知道你達到目標的途徑是完全不同的。一架典型的商用飛機90%的時間偏離航線,但它差不多總是能到達目的地,因為它知道往哪裡飛並且隨時的修正方向。你不可能預知確切的途徑。我認為計畫的真實目的在於你確信存在一條可行的途徑。我們都聽說過,據統計80%的新商業機構在頭五年裡倒閉,但一個更有趣的統計是幾乎所有成功的商業機構的發展道路都與原定的計畫不同。以商業計畫開始的成功的企業,你通常都會發現最初的計畫慘遭敗績,他們只是因為嘗試其他途徑而成功。有人說不與市場緊密聯繫的商業計畫難以生存。我把它推廣為不與現實世界緊密聯繫的計畫也難以實施。

著名作家和商業顧問StephenCovey經常引用這個句子,”誠實面對選擇。”意思就是在沒有瞭解目標的情況下,不能盲目的執行計畫。例如,你細心的執行計畫–目前為止一切順利–突然出現一個無法預料的機會。你堅持原有計劃(這會喪失機會)還是停止機會抓住機會(這會使你脫離計畫)?這時你需要停下來考慮你的目標,以決定哪個是更好的選擇。盲目的執行計畫是不可取的。一旦獲得可以更正計畫的資訊,你要訓練在選擇的時刻保持誠實。有時你可以借不曾預料的捷徑達到目標。另一些時候你得堅持原有計劃並避免為次要的東西分心,那會把你帶離你的目標。緊守你的目標,但靈活對待計畫。

我相信一個清晰的計畫遠遠比一個清楚的計畫來得重要的多。在大學裡我很清楚自己的最終目標——在三個學期裡完成大學學業——但是我的計畫隨時隨刻都在變化。每天我都會有新的作業,課程或者考試,我必須適應這些隨時變化的情況。如果我試圖為每個學期指定長期計畫,那麼不出一天計畫就會失效了。

一時一事

我堅持非常基礎的用紙-筆記錄要做的事,而並非某些精細的組織系統。我唯一的組織工具只是一個筆記薄,在上面我寫下所有任務以及它們的完成期限。我並不為預先的安排和次序而擔憂。我我只需看一眼清單,選出適合空餘時間的要事即可。一完成這個任務,就把它從列表裡去掉。

如果我有一份10小時的學期報告要寫,我會一次完成它而不是把它分成更小的任務。我通常在週末去做那些耗時的工作。在上午去圖書館做必要的查閱,然後回到宿舍開始寫,直到最終的論文列印出來。如果需要休息我就休息。這與這個計畫如何重要還有教授要求幾周內完成它沒有關係。一旦我開始,我就會堅持下去直到100%完成,就等著交作業了。

這個簡單的習慣為我節約了大量時間。首先,它使我對每項任務全神貫注,做起來效率就很高。轉換任務會浪費很多時間,因為你不得不重新瞭解和熟悉它們。單獨處理使得切換任務所耗費的時間最小化。實際上,如果可能我會把某一特定主題的任務集中在一起,然後一次完成它們。所以我一次性連續做完我的數學作業。然後去做所有的程式設計作業。然後去做綜合作業。這樣,我使我的大腦處於數學思維,程式設計思維,寫作思維,還有藝術思維的狀態,並且保持盡可能長時間的保持單一的模式。第二,我覺得這個習慣使我沒有拘束也沒有壓力,我的思維不會因為過多要做的東西而混亂。這種每次只做一件事的習慣,讓我忘掉現在任務之外的所有東西。

失敗是朋友

大部分人對失敗懷有先天的恐懼,事實上它卻是你最好的朋友。成功的人也因為屢次嘗試而經歷很多失敗。偉大的棒球手BabeRuth曾同時保持本壘打和三振出局的記錄。最成功的人同時也面對著最慘痛的失敗。失敗沒什麼不正常,也不必感到羞恥。唯一的讓人後悔的是從不去嘗試。所以,別對前進的過程產生恐懼。要確定一些事是否可行,有時候最快的辦法是上手去做。在進行的過程中你可以不斷調整自己。這是個準備-開火-瞄準的過程,讓人驚訝的是,它比通常的準備-瞄準-開火更有效。原因是你”開火”以後,你就有了第一手資料來調整自己的瞄準。很多人陷入思考和計畫之中,而從不開始動手。停滯於某個步驟裡(比如:準備-瞄準-瞄準-瞄準-瞄準……),這你失去了太多好點子。

大學裡我做了很多我認為可以節約時間的瘋狂嘗試。我不停的閱讀有關時間管理的資料並且加以應用,但我也有獨創的辦法。大部分我自己的辦法徹底失敗,但有些行得通。我樂於一次次的失敗,以求在微小的機會下,我的偶然發現讓我突飛猛進。

要明白失敗並不是和成功正相反。失敗是成功之母。一旦你成功,沒人記得你曾經失敗。微軟並不是BillGates和PaulAllen的第一次商業冒險。有誰記得他們經營Traf-o-Data時的失敗?金凱·利還是個年輕喜劇演員的時候就經常被噓下舞臺。電燈泡的發明是因為湯瑪斯·愛迪生經歷過10000次失敗後仍不放棄。如果你被失敗糾纏,你就這麼理解它:這同樣是成功,或者說獲得了經驗。

戰勝對失敗的恐懼會讓你快樂。假如你對達到某個特殊的目標而興奮,但又害怕不能成功實現,那麼撲上去著手做吧。就算你的嘗試失敗了,你也會學到有價值的東西,下一次就可以做更好的嘗試。如果你看到當今那些成功的商業人士,你一樣要看到在他們事業的一舉成功之前的一連串慘痛失敗,包括我在內。而且我覺得這些人大都會同意我的看法,開始的失敗經驗對後來的成功有著基礎性貢獻。對打算開始創業的人,我的建議是創業就是生產或者服務,而不要太擔心是否成功。它們可能會失敗。但相比只是空想,你會學到更多東西。

現在開始!

W.ClementStone建立了價值數億美元的保險業帝國,他要求所有的雇員每天開始工作前一遍遍的背誦這句話:”現在開始!”一旦你覺得變得懶散而且又想起必須要做的事情,停下來大聲說,”現在開始!現在開始!現在開始!”我經常把這句話作為我的屏保。拖拖拉拉的代價巨大,因為你一次次的回到工作中,大大增加了時間的浪費。思考的和計畫固然重要,但行動更重要。思考和計畫不會讓你得到報酬,只有工作成果才能。當你猶豫的時候,大膽的行動吧,就像它根本不可能失敗。實際上,的確如此。

養成果斷決定的習慣是絕對必要的。我對每一個必須的決定使用六十秒原則,不管它多麼重要。一旦我有足夠的準備去做一個決定,我打開一個計時器,只給自己六十秒來做一個果斷的決定。如果需要我甚至靠擲硬幣來選擇。我在大學的時候,我沒時間去擔心作業或者什麼時候完成。我拿起一個就開始做。現在我我需要決定要寫那個報告,我就挑一個主題開始寫。我覺得這讓是我從未覺得無從下筆的原因。無從下筆就是處於停滯狀態思考該寫什麼。我之所以沒有為寫東西浪費時間,只是因為實在太忙了。這可能也是我能輕鬆寫出成百篇原創文章的原因。我寫的每篇文章衍生出至少兩個觀點,所以我的觀點列表與日俱增。我無法想像這些內容會用光。

人們經常遲遲不做決定,拖延也沒什麼好處。通常推遲決定覺得只會導致消極的後果,所以就算你面對困惑,咬咬牙下定決心吧。假如是個錯誤的決定,你很快就能發現。許多人可能花超過60秒的時間來決定午飯吃點什麼。如果我無法決定吃什麼,我就抓起一個蘋果或一把香蕉開始吃,有些時候在我確定我到底想要吃什麼以前,水果已經填滿我的肚子。這樣我的大腦明白除了水果我如果還打算吃點別的,那最好迅速決定。如果你可以加快決定速度,你就會節約餘下來實施計畫的時間。

研究表明世界上最優秀的管理者對猶豫不決都有著極高的抵制力。也就是說,他們在面對偏愛或者矛盾狀況的時候會大膽決斷。許多當今的工業家都加快了作決定的速度,因為等到準備充足了也許機會也錯過了。當你無路可退的時候,你只能依靠自己的經驗和直覺。盡可能快速的作出決定。如果不能馬上決定,就先放到一旁,抽個時間考慮再作決定。大把的時間應該花在行動上,而不是決定本身。優柔寡斷是嚴重的時間浪費,最好不要超過60秒。作一個堅決而直接的決定,由不確定轉變為確定,然後行動。出現錯誤就讓事實告訴你,這樣你就會積累足夠的經驗,從而作出正確而睿智的決定。

無情的放棄

放棄一切浪費時間的事情。把它們統統扔進垃圾筒。遵循”如果懷疑,不如放棄”的準則。不要訂閱那些沒用的雜誌。如果兩個月前的雜誌你至今還沒有讀過,扔掉它,它可能不值得一讀。要明白任何花時間去做的事情都是有價值的。在註冊新的服務或者訂閱之前,問問自己那會佔用你多少時間?做每一件事情都有它的機會成本。試問自己,”它值得我為它做出犧牲嗎?”

上大學的時候,我嚴格地篩選要做的每一件事情。我曾經拒絕參加一位元教授安排的關於電腦科學研究的活動,因為那樣的話會浪費我很多時間。那項研究大概需要10到20小時的工作時間,在如此長的時間裡我將陷入繁雜的工作中,但卻學不到任何我以前不知道的東西。而且那項研究僅占我課堂成績的10%,就我以前的表現很優秀,不參加研究所導致的唯一結果就是學期成績從A變為A-。我對教授說那是公平的並且會接受A-。我不想再去和他談任何的特殊條件。所以那學期我的成績是A-,但是由於更好的利用了那些10到20個小時,我給了自己A+。

問自己這樣的問題:”如果要我把例如像研究一個課題,建立一個關係,從事一項工作等等這樣不能獲取新的知識的工作再做一遍的話,我還要重新開始嗎?”如果你的答案是”不,”那就趕緊遠離那些事情吧。這就叫做毫無意義的思考。我瞭解到有很多人用”做事要有始有終”這個信條來限制自己。他們花費了大量的時間去爬一架梯子,但當他們到達梯子頂端的時候才發現,原來梯子搭錯了建築,之前所做的都白費了。記住失敗是你的朋友。所以,當你發現以前所做的決定不再為你現在的目標而服務時,請大膽並無情地拋棄以前的決定吧,然後去尋找更好的想法。人們不會以花費畢生精力去追逐一個懈怠人生的目標而自豪的。這是另一個要顧全大局的時刻。你必須堅持對你自己目前的處境進行重新的評估,然後才能為以後的發展做出正確的決定。如果你今天不時刻審視自己決定的話,那麼以前所做的一切決定都是毫無用處了。

確定並且彌補浪費掉的時間

把一小時長的電視節目錄製下來,然後在45分鐘內用快進的方式跳過廣告。同樣一件事情,如果用電話10分鐘就可以解決的話,就不要花半個小時去發送一封長長的電子郵件。把你要做的事情放在一起,然後立刻把它們搞定。

在大學期間第二個和第三個學期之間的夏天,我發現沿著街道的一幢公寓要比我們宿舍距離工程館近一點。所以我從宿舍搬出來並搬進了那幢沿街的公寓,這樣,我每天都節省了一些步行或者騎車的時間。我原來的宿舍每個房間有三個人,而現在我擁有一個更小的,單人住小型公寓房間。新的房間效率更高,比如說,我可以在工作的同時做晚飯,因為我的書桌和爐子之間只是幾步而已。

渴望提高效率的人們總是以克服浪費時間的習慣作為起點,但我卻認為那是錯誤的。培養個人習慣來的要慢一些,首先要明確目的。如果你沒有明確目的,只是設法用高效的習慣去排擠無效的習慣,那麼結果只有失敗。因為你沒有一個強有力的理由支持你花費時間去做有意義的事情,所以做的時候很容易就會停止。你需要一個宏大的,有吸引力的目標來激發自己。能從工作時間裡擠出15分鐘的原因,就是因為你由於更好的利用這15分鐘而產生的激情。

例如,你或許有一份還算喜歡的工作,但是從事這個工作競爭並不激烈,那麼你就應該留意做每一項工作的時候都節省15分鐘,這樣下來,你每天一共節省下來的時間甚至有好幾個小時。如果能把它們用來實現你那個深藏心底的目標,那麼你將積極主動地更好地利用節省下來的時間。如果你明白真正的生活以”目的,意義,信仰”為次序,那麼低水準的生活則處於”習慣,實踐,行動”的自我調節狀態。

應用80-20的規則。

我們都知道帕累托原理,即80-20的比例關係規則,該規則是指用20%的努力實現80%的價值。反過來,其規則也同樣指代著:用80%的努力實現20%的價值。我在大學的時候嚴格遵守此原理。在幾周的時間裡我逃了40%的課,因為對於我來說,聽講座並不是學習最有效率的方式。在前文中我已經提到了因為覺得不值得花時間而拒絕參與一項課題研究的事情。同樣,我在一門數學課上僅僅出席了兩次,即期中和期末的時候。因為我覺得我自己看書要比聽講座學的快得多。我在每次剛上課的時候開始做家庭作業,然後在快下課的時候記錄下次要講的內容。事實上,我拿了那門課的最高分,但是那個教授可能都不知道我是誰。除了我以外的其他同學都循規蹈矩的學習,而忽視了他們自己的規則。要找到你人生中屬於那至關重要的20%的部分,然後全力以赴。如果有一些事情會浪費時間,一定要毫不猶豫地放棄它。把你的時間投資在那些可以事半功倍的事情上。

捍衛你的時間

想有效率地工作,就需要大塊不間斷的時間,這樣才能完成有意義的工作。當你確保自己不被打擾的時候,你的工作效率就會高的多得多。當你坐下來要去完成一項特別認真的工作的時候,不要做其他任何事情,專心致志投入到這段時間裡吧。我發現,一個不少於90分鐘的時間段,對於完成一項單獨的工作十分理想。

你需要和周圍人商量一下,來保證大塊不被打擾的時間。如果必要的話,提前通知他們在特定的時間裡不要打擾你。有必要的話就武力威脅。在學校,當我需要工作的時候,會把寢室的門鎖上,這樣的話,我的室友就明白在這段時間裡不要來打擾我。然而,每個獨立的寢室都是為住兩個人(四人套房)設計的,為此我多付了錢而擁有一個完全屬於自己的寢室。於是我可以在私人的房間裡工作。有空的時候,我就打開門,有時候也和室友打打遊戲。如果你碰巧工作在一個經常被打擾的環境裡,那麼你的工作效率就會被影響,所以要不惜任何代價去改變那樣的環境。一些人告訴我,他們曾經拿這篇文章給他們的老闆看,幫助說服他/她在工作的時候設法減少不必要的打擾。

對於一些人來說,劃出一段特殊的時間來工作是有好處的。我的最佳工作時間是一段很長、結束時間不定、且不想被打擾的時間。我經常規定工作的開始時間,但卻沒有規定具體完成的時間。無論什麼時候我都盡可能長時間的工作,直到我覺得餓了或者身體上其他的需要。我可以連續工作六個小時不休息。雖然人們普遍認為經常休息可以提高效率,但是我覺得那種說法只是工業化時期對於那些貧困、不主動的工人們的一種人為安慰,並不適用於那些主動性強、目標明確和富有創造性的人。我發現自己會一直工作,直到幾乎不能繼續為止,而不會把一項工作分成好幾個小的部分去做,因為那樣的話,在工作的時候就有分心的危險。

每當專注于一項工作而忘了時間的時候,需要大約15分鐘的才能進入狀態。當被打擾之後,又要花費15分鐘才能重新進入狀態。一旦你進入了狀態就一定要保持住。這種狀態讓你全神貫注于大量的工作以及與工作相關的以往的經驗之中。當我處於這種狀態的時候,我從來就不想過去和將來的事情。我只會想到我和我的工作。

然而有的時候,我遭遇了這樣的問題。由於工作的增加而不能準時完成(帕金森定律),但我覺得很值得冒險去試一下。例如,當我優化我的網站時,經常有好的想法出現在我的腦海中。於是我立刻把我的想法付諸實踐。我發現當時就執行想法要比事後安排再去做,效率會高很多。

完全投入

在一段時間裡,除了做眼前的工作以外不要考慮其他任何事情。不要檢查郵箱、泡論壇或者隨便上網溜達。如果有這個念頭,在工作的時候斷開互聯網連接。關掉電話或者拒接。開始前去趟廁所,同時確保在一段時間裡不會覺得餓。在此期間根本不離開椅子,也不要和人說話。

決定好了要做什麼,就不要做其他事情。如果偶然被別人打擾,問他們最重要的事兒是什麼,確定他們是否只是在做最重要的事。如果這個人在回復電子郵件,那麼這個時候發郵件就是他此時最重要的事。否則通常來說,這個人是在浪費時間。

如果需要休息就徹底的休息。假如你覺得自己需要恢復一下體力,那就不要邊工作邊休息。收郵件、上網都不是休息。當你休息的時候,閉眼,做深呼吸,聽一些輕鬆的音樂或者出去走走,小睡二十分鐘,或者吃點水果。一直休息到你覺得又可以努力工作。需要休息就休息,應當工作就工作。要是100%的集中精神,乾脆不工作。想休息多久就休息多久是沒錯的,只是別讓休息時間佔用了工作時間。

多線工作

特定領域的新知識增加的如此之快,以至於你的知識可能隨時在變得陳舊。解決的唯一辦法是盡可能的吸收新知識。今天我工作中的很多技能,在五年前根本沒有。據我所知,跟上時代發展的好辦法是盡可能的閱讀,還有聽錄音資料。

看電視的時候,在廣告時段讀電腦雜誌。如果是男人,邊刮鬍子邊讀。我每天用電動剃鬚刀刮臉,會在這兩三分鐘裡讀點東西。這讓我每週多看了兩篇文章–一年就多出100篇。這個習慣很容易開始。只要拿起幾本雜誌,或者列印一些沒時間去讀的文章,把他們放在你的臥室裡。出門的時候,順手拿一本。如果要排隊,比如在郵局或者商店,就可以拿出來讀了。你會驚訝於在做這些不費腦子的事情的同時,學到了多少知識。

盡可能的聽一些教育錄音。開車的時候就可以聽。NightingaleConant銷售各個領域的專家整理的各種錄音節目。大部分有六小時長,大約售價60到70美元,它們物有所值。這些節目比起到大學裡上課更實用一些。在大學拿到商業或者貿易學位的人由大學教授授課,而你學同樣的課程時,卻是由那些百萬富翁或者億萬富翁告訴你什麼可行而什麼不可行。一個節約時間的好辦法是直接請教那些掌握著你想學到的技能的人。

多線工作也許是讓我在三個學期完成大學課程的最重要的簡單技巧。通常我在工作日裡有七到八小時的課程。但最後一學期的每個週二,我從早上九點到晚上十點都連著上課。因為每學期我選了12門課,每週都有不少測驗和作業要做。課外的時間除了打工我沒時間去學習。所以遇到什麼我就不得不學什麼。假如老師在黑板上寫了點東西,我就記住它;我不能等過後再學,那樣就有落後的危險。對那些困難的課程,我會做作業、完成程式設計演算法,或者改進我的計畫。你能找到無數多線工作的機會。當你活動的時候,比如開車、做飯、購物或者走路,聽磁帶或者讀點東西吧。

多線工作的想法似乎與之前建議的一時一事相矛盾。不過前面所談的是高強度的工作,你必須盡全力集中所有的精神來做好它們。而這裡的工作是指低強度的,能同時做其他事情的工作,比如排隊、做飯、乘飛機或者從一個地方走到另一個地方。多線工作不能用在至關重要的任務上,否則會適得其反。需要休息就好好休息一下,但別把時間浪費在局部的成果上。在全力工作和徹底休息之間調節是更有效的。

多線工作可以讓你的效率提高到一個新水準。你可能覺得這樣太累,但很多人卻發現效果正相反。做很多事情讓我充滿活力。工作越努力,工作的能力就越強,休息就越有效果。

動手一試

人和人不盡相同,所以對你有效的方法可能對別人沒效果。你可能上午工作效率高或者喜歡熬夜。利用你自己的特點,想辦法彌補不足。試驗工作的同時聽音樂。我用免費的WinAMP播放機,它可以直接整天在電腦上播放各種各樣的免費音樂。我發現古典音樂和新世紀音樂,特別是莫札特,對網路開發的工作效果不佳。但是對於大多數日常事務,聽那些快速的techno/trance音樂可以讓我的速度快一點。不知道為什麼,當我聽快節奏音樂的時候工作效果是不聽音樂的兩倍。另一方面,有歌詞的音樂有害的,因為它太分心了。如果我想要精神高度集中,我根本不聽音樂。你自己試一試,看看什麼樣的音樂能有益於你。對我來說這些音樂的差別是戲劇性的。

當你想到一個提高效率的怪主意,先試試看效果怎麼樣。如果沒嘗試,不要輕易放棄任何想法。局部成功比全盤失敗更普遍,所以每一次嘗試對於時間管理實踐來說都會有所説明。就算正在進行的嘗試愚蠢的很,不過它也會使你變得更高效。

保持激情

“enthusiasm”這個詞來自希臘語的”entheos”,字面意思是”神在心中”。我很喜歡這個解釋。如果對如何安排時間沒有持續的激情,我懷疑掌握時間管理的藝術是不可能的。朝著真正鼓舞你的方向前進。追逐你的激情,而不是金錢。假如你對工作沒有熱情,你就是在浪費生命。換個工作吧。重新考慮新的職業。如果你現在的職業變得乏味,也不要喪氣。記住,失敗是朋友。聽從內心的召喚,換一個刺激自己的工作。做那些讓自己不快樂的事情是最浪費時間的。你為了自己的人生而工作,不為別的。

象大多數人那樣,你可能很快就讓自己主動起來,但接著就消沉下來,效率很低,無法繼續完成計畫。當你熱情高漲的時候,開始一個新計畫是多麼簡單。然而當激情退去,堅持又是多麼困難?人總會有這樣或者那樣的不足,除非你想辦法主動培養,否則隨著時間推移你會失去主動性和積極性。我不認為那些我根本不想做的事情可以強求。如果我不主動,那麼坐下來努力工作幾乎是不可能的,而且這又是多麼痛苦。當你有足夠的主動性,工作起來就跟玩一樣。

在大學裡我不能失去我的激情,那樣我會死掉。我很快意識到每天必須有意識的增強自己的積極性。我一直把隨身聽帶在身邊(那時候還沒有MP3),當我從一間教室走向下一間的時候,我就聽那些時間管理和自我激勵的磁帶。早晨慢跑的時候我也聽。我幾乎時時刻刻都在保持我的激情。就算有人說我一定會失敗。這些磁帶對我影響巨大,因為我一直保持著積極的狀態。

如果你的熱情高漲,你會卓有成效的工作,並且把乏味的工作當作樂趣。我始終發現,一旦我想把我的事業提高到一個新水準,我必須先把我的意識提高到新的水準。內心希望改變時,行動才會改變,結果也就隨著改變了。除非你天生是個亢奮的傢伙,否則你需要每天增強自己的熱情。我推薦聽自我激勵的磁帶,或者讀催人上進的書和文章,每天最少十五分鐘。你一停止給自己打氣,就會開始懷疑自己,動力就開始減退。經常給自己灌輸主動性的東西可以保持自己的激情,這真的讓人驚訝。如果你同時多線工作,你就不用另花時間。

飲食和鍛煉

大學最後一學期前的夏天(1993年),我成了半素食主義者,我發覺精力有了很大的提高,特別是集中精神的能力。四年後(1997年)我成為嚴格素食主義者(不吃肉類),一直到今天,這產生了更大的增強。

飲食對活動有著深遠的影響。肉製品比植物食品需要更多時間和能量來消化,那麼當你的身體消耗特別的能量來消化的時候,意味著你用於腦力勞動的能力能量就會減少。消化包含肉類食物的時候,你的工作效率會降低,也更容易分散精力。如果你發現飯後很難集中精神做事腦力勞動,你吃的東西就是罪魁禍首。佛蘭克林也認為有節制的用餐對工作意義重大。他在餘下的時間裡能夠繼續有效的工作,而他的同僚們則顯得遲鈍和昏昏欲睡。

經常的體育鍛煉對於足夠的精力和清醒的頭腦也是很必要的。大學裡我每天早飯前都要跑步30分鐘。當然,我同時會聽一些自我激勵的磁帶和教育磁帶。每天如此使我的身體處於良好狀態,並幫我保持理想的體重。另外,我每天上課的地方需要在校園裡繞來繞去,同時我還要背一個20至30磅的書包,裡面裝滿了課本。這樣即使我大部分週末都坐在教室裡,我一樣得到了足夠的體育鍛煉。

掌握時間管理,對於磨練你最佳的時間管理工具,也就是你的身體,十分有意義。通過飲食和鍛煉你可以培養持續集中精神的能力,即使再難的工作看上去也變得容易了。

假如你現在覺得自己超重了,去一趟附近的體育館或者體育用品店,選擇一個(或一對)和你多餘重量相當的啞鈴。拿著它四處走走,感受一下你每天的負擔。想像一下如果你減掉這部分體重,一切將變得多麼輕鬆。攜帶重物來鍛煉是一回事,但如果這些重量是體重的一部分,那你永遠不能放下這樣的重物,也無法從這樣的鍛煉裡得到收穫。下定決心減掉這些多餘的重量,標準的身材會讓你終身受益。

勞逸結合

我覺得如果你不能合理的安排生活,那麼保持長期的動力、健康還有快樂就沒那麼容易。某些方面的長處並不能彌補其他方面的不足。大學裡我儘量在每週安排一天放鬆自己。做運動、參加聚會和社團社團、打遊戲、打檯球,在最後一學期甚至去拉斯維加斯驢旅遊。”黑色三月”就是因為生活不合理造成的。以其他生活為代價而在某一方面過分專注,從長遠看時有害的。在你生活的各個方面維持一個平衡。事業發展的同時,別忘了發展自己的個性。

三個學期就讀完大學這件事讓我最後悔的,就是我沒有女朋友。雖然我有很多好朋友(男女都有),我們每星期都在酒吧一起玩,但在忙忙碌碌之外,我確實沒有時間去追女孩子。我記得有一次,一個女孩明顯對我有興趣,她更多的和我在一起。但我放棄了,因為我沒時間以她想像的方式和她約會。她不可能成為我的女朋友。

如果讓我重新開始,我相信花四到五個學期完成學業會更好,那樣我也有時間找個女朋友。和別人分享生活的樂趣是美妙的,更不要說其他親密接觸了。畢業以後我有了很多時間用來約會。幾個月以後我找到女友,四年後我們完婚。她和我大學時就是校友,我們又不少共同的熟人,但那時候根本沒見過面。

我相信時間管理的意義在於盡全力讓自己的生活變的有趣。明確自己的目標並培養良好的習慣,都使你更高效的達到目標,你會享受一種從未有過的充實而豐富的生活。十幾年後我回頭看看我的大學生活,我充滿了對整個過程的感激之情。在成功的路上我制訂了嚴格的計畫,迅速成長起來。這是我一生中最美好的時光。

如果你希望自己變得主動,那就讓自己的生活徹頭徹尾的發生改變。掌握時間管理的原因在於獲得優質的人生,並讓它變得與眾不同。時間管理不是自我犧牲或者自我否定,也不是拼命做那些自己不願意做的事情。實際上,它是讓你更樂於做你喜歡的事情。